About Mistress Audry Lu Black
Mistress Audry Lu Black is a professional dominatrix, sex educator, intimacy consultant, and upcoming author. With 25 years of experience using consensual behavioral modification to unlock transformative self-awareness, she merges erotic power exchange with academic insight and radical compassion.
She currently teaches workshops on kink skills and negotiation, and works with clients one-on-one to work towards individual goals. A seasoned speaker with 15+ years on stage, Audry delivers electrifying, intelligent, and deeply personal talks that challenge audiences to rethink sex, shame, consent, and selfhood. Her lectures blend storytelling, philosophy, practical tools, and emotional truth – rooted in lived experience and fiercely grounded in ethical, person-centered care.
She is currently writing a book on the dynamic intersectional relationship between psychology, philosophy, and kink. The book concentrates on utilizing stoic and cognitive behavioral therapeutic techniques to examine epicurean experiences.
One-on-One Virtual Consultation
One on one consultations utilize new communication techniques to explore your roles in a variety of relationships and kink scenarios. Helping you develop confidence in your own decisions, and guiding you through learning how to maximize joy and pleasure through ethically considered personal boundaries.
These private coaching sessions utilize the discretion of intimate professionalism to help you discover the strength of accountability and personal autonomy.
Placemarker4Perversion Podcast
Listen in to the Placemarker4Perversion Podcast, hosted by me, Mistress Audry Lu Black. Join me as we leave behind the mundane and draw back the velvet curtain to learn new things and explore the philosophical depths of kink. This inclusive space dismantles rigid expectations, welcoming seasoned sentualists, the “just curious”, and tenderfoot trembling on the threshold. You’ll find a sanctuary here.
Workshops & Classes
Owning Forbidden Desires
Exploring taboo not merely as a reflection of its greater culture but as a testing place for our personal ethics and autonomy, person-centering the sexual experience as a means for growth. By taking advantage of how society distinctly separates our bedroom behaviors from our everyday, we have an opportunity to view facets of ourselves and focus on our own loci of control.
Love, Lust, and Lies
Identifying Sex Scams and Romance Scams: avoid being taken advantage of; recognize and express your relational worth; and navigate boundaries and consent. Discuss the 5 most common cons, objets d’erotic blackmail, negotiation techniques, and dating profile analysis. In addition, participants also learn to identify the difference between ethical findomming and online financial scams.
Kink and Love and Ownership
Exploring chastity, denial, cuckolding, and the purpose behind sacrifice. More importantly, looking at how they can be used to deepen connections.
Please contact us directly to discuss virtual or in-person workshops.
Value Theory is the philosophical exploration of ethics and aesthetics. It seeks to evaluate the principles, structures, and course of a person’s character.
My ethical purpose is to help others attain tranquility, and understand a life free of fear of shame and pain through self-evaluation.
“The unexamined life is not worth living.” — Socrates
“M. Lu has provided a platform which challenges me to lead a better and altogether healthier lifestyle. Her methods leave you feeling fulfilled and happier as a result. Would highly recommend!”
Mr. D
“With her no nonsense approach, [M. Lu] sets high standards and expects a lot in terms of engagement but her techniques have consistently yielded results that speak for themselves. Have thoroughly enjoyed the process.”
Mr. W
“Mistress brings together real-world BDSM experiences (her own and others’) with wide-ranging and deeply detailed reference to philosophy and psychology to provide a complex account of what leads us to these desires. By treating these urges and activities with the seriousness they deserve, she gives the reader insight into what drives their bedroom predilections, and offers a clear perspective on how those interests reflect (and can influence) our everyday personalities.”
Mr. K